But …. If ….

Sometime I feel much fed up when talking to my son.

He is 9 years old. Occasionally, we have discussion on how to overcome his shortcomings. As a father, I always try my best to influence him through proper reasoning. However, whenever suggestions are given, he always question me back by using words like “but” and “if”.

I welcome all positive questions from my kids as I believe this is an important process to learn. However, they may not realize that, if they use the word “but” and “if”, they are actually giving themselves excuses not to move on. This is a kind of negative psychological thinking. Words are really powerful that will have direct influence to your mind and your mind will send those signals to your body to act accordingly. You will not take action if you mind perceive signal negatively. That is why I restrict him for using these conjunctions when asking question or giving reply.

Similarly, for us, we need positive thinking to make us to move on. Any negative thinking will slow or even stop you and you will be the big loser by the end of the day. Start to think positively. Twist the question around whenever negative thought arise. For example, instead of let your mind tell you that you can’t make it, ask yourself back on how are you going to make it.